The BlackJag Executive
Cheating on your partner (spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend) is a very common occurrence in today’s society. Getting caught is usually traumatic, if not devastating for all parties and invariably everybody loses. The chances of getting caught cheating are astonishingly high. Makes sense if you consider that, the adrenalin rush from a new love affair is sure to send you into a dizzied state of state of mind.
This article doesn’t advocate infidelity but if you are cheating or thinking about it, than you should be clever about it. Here are some very dumb, common mistakes that can get you into a whole lot of trouble and can end up changing your life forever.
1. Don’t assume your partner is dumb
This is the biggest mistake people make. You might think you know your partner well. For example, after 25 years of marriage you can lull yourself into believing they don’t know anything about computers, or perhaps they don’t much about your work. Even if they do, you may feel absolutely convinced they could never leave the relationship. These assumptions often lead to carelessness or overconfidence. But you may be surprised at how you’ve lost touch with your partner’s determination and capabilities.
2. Don’t assume your partner doesn’t care and therefore won’t notice
Your partner may appear to be disengaged from the relationship and disinterested in what you are doing. You may even point to this as the very reason that you are cheating. But in reality, it’s more likely that your partner remains very interested and will in fact be looking for evidence of your commitment (or lack thereof) to the relationship. When relationships start to grow apart, partners start covertly hunting for reasons to either stay or leave the relationship. If you ignore this possibility, you will get sloppy and give your partner all the evidence they need to nail you.
3. Social Networking and Online activity
Social Networking is one of the riskiest ways to get caught. There are many ways that your partner can look into what you are doing online. These systems are full of security loopholes and it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to dig around and find information, about, you online. Your computer will also hold a great deal of information locally about what you have been doing on-line. Don’t assume that information can’t be accessed easily. Spending large amounts of time on these systems, is sure to raise your partner’s brow. Avoid this by spending a proportionate amount of time on these systems, by choosing your contacts carefully (i.e. don’t add your lover), by regularly checking your security settings and by keeping your passwords well guarded. A very common mistake is to delete your email in Outlook but forget to clear the recycling bin or deleting emails from the inbox but forgetting to delete them from the sent box. Avoid using your cell phone or Blackberry for sexting or emailing your lover unless it has a fool proof password. Even with a password, don’t leave these devices lying around.
4. Password Protection
From the outset of any relationship you should keep your passwords to yourself exclusively. Any shared passwords are risky. MsOffice Outlook is usually the biggest problem because people have one account, usually shared with others in the same household. Do not use Outlook. You are better to use one of the online email programs that doesn’t download messages to your computer as Outlook does. Another common mistake is writing your passwords down, keeping them in a file or using obvious passwords that your partner can guess.
5. Don’t tell your friends that you are cheating
You may be tempted to confide in a friend. There are two risks to consider here. The first one is that your friend may not be a friend at all in the future. Past friends can’t be counted on to maintain their loyalty. The greater risk, however, is that your friend may confide in someone else about it your indiscretion. Often friends confide in their own partner who in turn may decide it’s their moral duty to inform your partner. This scenario occurs more often than you might think. The minute you tell anyone about your situation, is the minute your risk of getting caught increases exponentially. In particular take extra care to keep any knowledge of your affair out of the work environment. Work is like a battlefield where you don’t really know who the enemy is. You’re there to win so don’t hand anyone a weapon to use against you.
6. Changes in behavior or appearance
The most difficult thing to control is changes in your behavior that will obviously be noticed by your partner. If for example, you suddenly become distant, begin wearing clothes you ordinarily wouldn’t wear or become vague about accounting for your time, you will be sure to raise the alarm bells. Don’t underestimate your partner’s gut instincts for knowing something is different. Dealing with this issue is complicated and risky because it involves deception. Essentially the lies multiply and therefore the risk of getting caught increases. Managing this risk really requires careful planning and in the context of how your partner will perceive changes.
Here are some obvious changes that will get noticed;
Suddenly vague on accounting for your time
Lying about your whereabouts especially when it involves overnight trips
Leaving the room to take “business” calls
Changes in how you dress. Wearing new or different clothes or suddenly deciding to do your own laundry
Hiding your visa bills or cell phone bills where previously you didn’t pay attention to them
Changes in your attitude (either positive or negative)
Distancing yourself from your partner physically. For example watching TV in separate rooms
Avoiding any meaningful conversations with our partner
Changes in the bedroom such as trying a new moves that you haven’t done with your partner previously
7. Do Not leave a paper trail
Buying gifts, paying for meals or hotel rooms on your credit card is a great way to get caught fast. Your credit card is the first place a suspicious partner will look. Phone bills are another great source of information for inquisitive eyes. Managing this is issue can be nearly impossible if your partner has being paying all the bills for years or if you have joint accounts. If this affair is really that important then you should open up your own visa account and get a mailbox to have any risky mail sent to it. A second cell phone/Blackberry may be the answer to your needs and may resolve other potential risks such as using your company Blackberry to text your lover.
8. Do Not bring your affair home
Only a fool would bring their lover home. The risks in doing this are obvious and yet so many people fall into this trap because it’s easier and cheaper than going to a hotel. Consider what is at risk for a few hours of fun and be smart about your decisions.
9. Do not get careless
Like committing a first crime, if you don’t get caught, you may think it was easier than you thought. So next time you may get a little slack with your precautions..that’s when you are in serious danger. Don’t fall into this trap. Remember that getting caught cheating carries high risk of destroying everything you worked for and irreparably hurting multiple people that you probably love. It’s not limited to your partner, it may devastating to your kids, your family, your circle of friends and even your lover. In the end, you won’t escape the devastation either.
Most people get wrapped up on the euphoria of an affair and forget to be smart about taking the necessary precautions to avoid getting caught. They get drawn in, by the excitement, and find it an easy diversion from the complex issues of their existing relationships. But this type of fix can only be temporary. Even with taking all the precautionary measures, cheating is still life-altering, risky business. Perhaps the best precaution of all is not to cheat but rather face the truth about your current relationship and have the courage to make those difficult decisions. This may involve working harder on your relationship or alternatively leaving your partner and family. But ultimately, this may be the quickest way for you to rediscover happiness and give a new relationship an honest try.
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